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The 10 Worst Ways to Ask Women on Motorcycle Rides

Riding a motorcycle as a couple is life changing.

It can do more for your relationship than the most gifted marriage therapist ever could.

Of course, I would say that.
I’m a lifelong happy pillion passenger.
Pat has to lever me off the seat with a crowbar when we get to the end of a ride.

But not all women feel this way.

Some would rather spend quality time cleaning the cat’s litter tray than go riding with you.

So what can you do about that?

There are two main reasons women are suspicious of motorcycles.

There’s a right way and a wrong way to entice your loved one onto the back seat of your bike.

The right way involves:

  • choosing your moment
  • checking the weather, and
  • offering to cruise through the sunshine to her favorite café in the countryside for lunch.


The wrong way involves:

  • Being aggressive
  • Asking when she’s in the middle of 500 chores, and
  • Raising sarcasm to an art form.

If you vent your frustration in a series of angry outbursts, she’ll be more likely to rip off her wedding ring than pull on her riding gear.

So here’s what NOT to do if you want some company on your motorcycle rides…

The 10 Worst Ways to Invite a Woman to Come Motorcycle Riding

1. Lie to her

If you say: We’ll go really slowly, don’t worry (heh, heh)…

She’ll be thinking: Uh huh. Last time you took me riding, we roared out of the driveway on the back wheel.
Forgive me if I’m not in the market for another heart attack.


2.  Threaten her

If you say: Look, I’m so sick of begging you to come on motorcycle rides!
This is the last time I ever ask you to go riding with me…

She’ll be thinking: Awesome. Stop asking already.

3.  Casually dismiss her fears

If you say: I’ve been riding for years and it doesn’t scare me.
What’s wrong with you?

She’ll be thinking: Good question.
There’s nothing wrong with me. In fact, I can probably do better…


4.  Confirm you don’t care whether she’s comfortable

If you say: Yep, that tiny strip of plastic is a standard pillion seat.
No-one else has ever complained…

She’ll be thinking: Hmm. Was that because your other girlfriends all left before you could have this conversation?

5.  Throw out a back-handed compliment

If you say: Why don’t you try on those riding jeans I got for you years ago?
You may still be able to get into them!

She’ll be thinking: What did you just say?


6.  Insult and reassure her at the same time

If you say: Of course you won’t fall off, don’t be stupid!

She’ll be thinking: I’m not stupid, thanks. I’m scared.
That’s not the same thing.

7.  Encourage paranoia

If you say: Look, you’ll be fine, alright?!
Why are you always worrying?

She’ll be thinking: Oh, so I’m completely neurotic, then?
Great, I feel better now.

8.  Get all dramatic

If you say: We never do anything fun together!

She’ll be thinking: You know, you’re right!
Maybe this relationship has run its course…


9.  Crank up the sarcasm

If you say: How can you say riding is boring?
Should I just get a TV installed in the back of my jacket to keep you entertained?

She’ll be thinking: Sarcasm really makes me love you more.

10.  Curse womankind in general

If you say: What is it with goddamn women and bikes???

She’ll be thinking: Right, I’m off to go shoe shopping and get my nails done, then.
Enjoy your ride.

Oh, and you’re cooking dinner tonight – if I haven’t changed the locks by the time you get back.
With my pink screwdriver.


When you see these less-than-inspiring approaches written down, you can probably see why they won’t get you very far.

A gentler approach – one that doesn’t include built-in personal criticisms – is much more likely to be successful.

So use a bit of charm next time you invite your other half to come motorcycle riding.

Ask her nicely, and ignore the cat as he shoots you filthy looks.
His litter tray can wait.

The Head of Kitty Litter Cleaning is now a little busy riding a motorcycle through the sunshine with you!


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    The cafe idea soundes perfect :-), thank youLiz.

      Cool! Hope it works for you!

    My wife has given it a go… mostly for me. But we did honeymoon in Ontario wine country on my 1984 GPz900R … but the Tl1000R and the RC51 were not passenger-friendly … So, I bought a Ural sidecar bike. She rides behind me with our boy and the dog in the sidecar. Looking forward to family adventures this summer.

      Awesome, Scott! What a great idea for a honeymoon, too! I bet that sidecar set up makes for the best family photos ever, too! I can just imagine them. That’s really unique.

    I think this applies to all vehicles some extent. A few weeks ago I was riding in heavy traffic and witnessed a tiny accident. A woman tried to overtake and a bumped into a car driving on the other lane. No big damage, just a scratch, but it was very easy to read the situation: Her nervous husband probably urged her to overtake against her will. When she finally did it (in a wrong moment), he then blamed her for it. She seemed frustrated and I don’t think she could enjoy driving after that experience. Unnecessary frustration for everyone, when a little encouragement and understanding could keep everyone happy…

      For sure, Una! A little kindness goes a long way…

    Don’t have that Problem much in The Philippines. Most women there are more than Happy to Ride 🙂 .

      Very cool! You won’t need those tips then, Steve! 😉

    I guess I was lucky, our second date was a motorcycle ride. She said she loved it seven time during the first 20 miles. It’s been ten years and close to 50,000 and we are still riding together!

      Fantastic! A very good sign! 🙂

    Lol love I actually got a bandana that say’s “Harley Hair Don’t Care.” Also love the dog pics on here as we have 2 yorkie’s lol.

    > She’ll be thinking: Sarcasm really makes me love you more.
    Oh yeah! Sarcasm 😉

      Heh heh heh, you get it, Keith… 😉

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